Friendships

11 “When Job's three friends, Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite and Zophar the Naamathite, heard about all the troubles that had come upon him, they set out from their homes and met together by agreement to go and sympathize with him and comfort him. 12 When they saw him from a distance, they could hardly recognize him; they began to weep aloud, and they tore their robes and sprinkled dust on their heads. 13 Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and seven nights. No one said a word to him, because they saw how great his suffering was.” Job 2:11-13


Friendships mean the world to me! I am not close with my family and so what I have as “family” is my friends. I spend holiday’s with friends, birthday’s, you name it. I’m so grateful that my friends families allow me to spend so much time with them. I put a lot of work in to my friendships.
I had a dinner party a few weeks back and there was one point when I looked around the table and said to myself “all 5 of these ladies could call me their best friend and I could call them mine.” The problem with being how I am is that I put a lot of work and time in to my relationships. And sometimes (most times) that effort is not returned. This is something I have had to come to terms with. Being a single girl I have the time. I don’t have a million commitments with family or husbands or boyfriends. It’s just me. I can go where I want when I want. So this leaves me the time to put the effort into my friendships. It took me a long time to see this and not get upset with my friends for not having time for me.
I think we all are guilty of this. Friends should be friends no matter what. Yes, it’s nice to have friends that are in your exact situation. Single, married, kids, no kids, tall, short..the list could go on. Job’s friends didn’t go to him cause they were all the same, they went to morn with him cause they were his friends and loved him.
Friends are there for each other no matter what. I know lately I have whined about not having single friends. And for that I am sorry. I don’t want to sound un grateful or un appreciative of the friends I have. So I may not be able to relate to my mom friends, or married friends, but they are still my friends. I would do anything for them. I want to be like Job’s friends and drop everything I was doing to go comfort my friend.